Is saying "well played" after winning rude?

I think live on the board game is a very different scenario with respect to Lichess online. In a vis-à-vis situation any comment can be ok.

Online, the "good game well played" message is definitely rude because it is a dumb automatism, completely detached from what happened in the game. No reply is expected but it calls the other player to open their chat window just to read a meaningless standard line, like a fortune cookie, always the same, that we are forced to read hundreds of times. Useless and irritating, expecially on Lichess app. Very bad idea to implement such a nasty automatism.

See also lichess.org/forum/lichess-feedback/automatic-gg-well-played-nonsense-possible-adjustment?page=1

I pretty much type GG Well Played in every single game, regardless of who lost/won (unless they are stalling or rude in the chat). Force of habit. I don't mean it to be sarcastic but there's nothing I can do if you interpret it that way. Some people type back 'GG or Thank You, or WP' and I guess they see it as a gesture instead of an insult. Others leave the chat, which means they either feel like you, or they don't want to type anything. But however my opponent feels after I type GGWP, there is nothing I can do about it.

Make it simple gg was enough, well played sound to irony after the game

How about
"Nice game"
"Interesting game"
"Sorry for the blunder" (when it's the case)
"Thanks"
"Bye"
Or any other human comment you feel appropriate after that particular game, including silence?

Rudeness is 1) in the automatism, 2) in the fact that you don't care about possible effects. Mind that your game mate receives a notification whatever you write and if on the app they are compelled to leave the board and open a window just to read what you wrote. Make it worth the reading, every time! Otherwise, please, just don't write anything at all.

@FredtheCrusher
Replying to your query to me in #14
In simple terms, it means 'good but not enough'. That is, the side played good but not enough to win. It doesn't demean the loser rather it is sign of acknowledgement. If one doesn't say so, it means that the winner is unaffected and lacks signs of a sportsperson.

No. It’s auto set on my preferences. It’s good sportsmanship.

If someone gets upset by it, then that’s their problem, not mine and vice versa.

If I play like a dork, lose and my opponent says ‘Well played’, I may well think, I played crap, but I certainly don’t take it as an insult.

"It’s auto set on my preferences. It’s good sportsmanship."

In my view, you can't interpret people's intentions upon few words like gg.
These things need strong relationship with him/her to properly interpret the intention or the reason behind saying smth.
Of course when just a random guy says smth, the ideas came to you are just a reflection of you but not the guy.
I remember a wisdom says, treat others like the way you like to be treated.

@master_of_DARKNESS said in #27:
> "It’s auto set on my preferences. It’s good sportsmanship."

You can argue that it's pointless because of this. But that doesn't make it an insult. People aren't insulting you when they say "have a good day" or whatever else, just because they don't really care whether you have a good day. You taking that as an insult would say something about you, not the person saying it. Same here.

I'd agree that in some contexts, it is obviously an insult - if the player being told it clearly played very poorly, for instance. But that's not the same as saying that it is rude as a rule. People who think that are just sensitive. They assume that because they think less of themselves for losing a pointless game of online chess, that other people must think less of them for losing too.

But here in reality, most people don't care that you lost a pointless game of online chess.

So thats what a strawman is.